"The experience of pain is an experience of being riveted to oneself, unable to distract onself by turning to the outside world, unable to retreat behind the pain to observe it and deal with it. To suffer the pain is to be unable to turn away from oneself, to look outward, to forget oneself. Suffering is to be mired in pain, mired in one's own substance. Pain is passivity and prostration. And pain weights down and chokes one's initiatives; it depersonalizes. It fills one's substance and smothers the upsurge of the I." -Alphonso Lingis, To Die With Others. 

Alex Siegman