"Compassion is not simply the pitting of our will against the suffering in another. To be compassionate is to long to suffer, to suffer with the other. One wants to be afflicted with this alien pain...There is an insidious temptation in the anguish with which we abide with the one who suffers - the temptation to know the ordeal, the inhuman abysses, the ultimate drama she is undergoing through her, without having to bear the prostration of her pain, without risking what she risks." -Alphonso Lingis, To Die With Others. 

Alex Siegman